Back in the summer, as I wheeled down Glastonbury high street, two people stood with a sign ‘Free hugs’ and a warm inviting smile of kindness. This smile reflected onto my face and I opened my arms wide. The man ran towards me and we shared a cwtch.
My friend joined in with the event, and as we walked away beaming we were amazed with how a small act of kindness and connection can alter your mood in a second.
This moment played on my mind all day, I had to take it home.
I put a post out on facebook, sharing my idea and asking for volunteers to join me. I was surprised when three friends got back to me straight with a convincing yes.
I did have doubts and resistance about going to our local town. Would they welcome the hugs or just think we’re crazy. But that was judgment on my part and had to trust in my reason of wanting to do it – Wanting to spread love and connection, to show with a simple hug that everyone matters.
The reaction we received on the day was wonderful. Yes, some refused a hug with a blunt no thanks, but hearing people say ‘you’ve made my day’ ‘this is what I need today’
What became clear was how much we always believe there must be a catch, nothing can be given for free, surely not? Many asked us ‘what’s it for?’ It was an experience to see their shocked faces when we’d say we had just given up our time to come out and help make people smile.
We loved giving so much that we have decided to hold a monthly free hug event. Please get in touch if you want to join us in the Carmarthenshire area
During the fist few month of growing from depression, I was so blessed to be guided towards Mindfulness. It was something that had been introduced to me in a book. Couple of weeks later, I met someone ‘randomly’ at a works event, whom after a very brief chat told me , if I got the chance to do an 8 weeks mindfulness course, I should! The sign was clear, I got home and booked myself on the Cardiff course with Vicki Worsley.
I loved everything about the course, from meeting like minded individuals, group discussions, group meditation and most of all knowing that I wasn’t alone, everyone has their challenges.
I took so much learning from the course, my awareness of others and myself grew. I became compassionate towards myself and others. It helped me to respond to challenges instead of reacting. It taught me to keep the small issues small and kept me in touch with what really matters.
People question how I keep a positive attitude, it is because I put the work in and self care is my priority. Truth is, as much as people care for you, you are the only one that can change your life.
Take control, take back the power, take responsibility.
Here’s an interview with my amazing teacher, Vicki Worsley, explaining all about Mindfulness and it’s benefits.
Three years ago, I headed towards Heron Lake for Access Adventure’s water-ski camp. I had such an amazing weekend, and I left wearing the biggest smile. But Ataxia has a way of reminding me that it’s still here, and i was wiped out with exhaustion and a cold for the following few days.
Naturopathy came into my life, and my healing journey began. As I’ve cleaned up my diet, to mainly plant based vegan, other things in my life have cleaned up. It is true that when you work on your body, it bring clarity to work on mind and then spirit. Continue reading “Bird shit”
I have just finished reading ‘feel the fear and do it anyways’ and cant believe I haven’t read it before now. I have learnt a lot about myself, how I think and react. The book is full of practical tools to implement into your daily routine, in order to gain power and control of your life.
Saying this, close to the end of the book, Susan Jeffers states the importance of going with the flow of life, accepting that not everything can not be controlled.
Human on wheels goes coasteering with Celtic quest
I gave a shout out for outdoor adventure companies in Pembrokeshire to invite me along to blog about their accessibility.
Within seconds of circulating the email I received an enthusiastic reply from Cleopatra Browne at Celtic quest. Cleo said. That their accessibility wasn’t all bells and whistles but they will make it the best experience possible, her words were:
Wellbeing adventure is a series where I interview all the people who help and inspire me to work body, mind and spirit.
In this first episode I interview Steve Rodger Phillips, The warrior of peace about his journey from his father’s death when he was only 13, to finding his spirituality and working on himself and helping others with self development.
Hi, my name’s Tina Marie Evans, I’m 32 years old and born and bred in the Gwendraeth Valley, West Wales. At the age of 16 I noticed something was up with my balance, I’d walk into friends and I found it hard to keep my balance whilst closing my eyes to pray in assembly. After some doctor appointments and a few tests I was given the diagnosis, Friedreich’s Ataxia. We had never heard of this rare condition, and being the typical Tina, at the time, I told my parents to do what they had to, I didn’t want to know, and just carried on with life.
I finished high school with three A-levels and went onto Aberystwyth University where I studied Theatre, Film and TV, made some amazing friends and had the best three years. I would consider myself to be more practical than academic, but due to increasingly losing my balance I was forced to stop acting and take on the behind the scenes role. I’m a positive person, and one of my key abilities is to see the positive in every situation. Having some experience in researching landed me my first job with BBC Wales as a researcher for the Education department then with Radio Cymru.
Working in Cardiff prompted my move to Cardiff, I lived here for 7 years and grew as a person. Before moving to Cardiff I had to battle with my pride on whether to give in to the wheelchair,, at the time ‘giving in’ is what it felt like. But I quickly became to realise that it was the best decision I could’ve made. Doing the small things like going to town or walk with friends became hard work due to tiredness and slowly my confidence dropped, but the wheelchair gave me back the freedom to get around and slowly brought back my confidence, it actually made me feel more able.